Relationship phobia or escapism?

I would like to begin with a few questions to all: First, Of late, do you resist going for hanging out session or a drink with your buddies? If yes, then, what are the million dollar excuses you have given? Second, if you do meet an interesting guy in a party, what is your initial reaction? And if he approaches you, do you step back and refuse politely or rudely ask him to back off? Most likely, you would retreat to the shadows, stand in a corner, nursing a drink alone, gazing longingly at your friends enjoying themselves.

Its not like you hate socialising, but you have just come out of a bitter break off. It gets worse, if you are emotionally-strung too. It happens to the best of people after all, we all are sensitive human beings and can get affected by breakups. It really does not matter how long your relationship lasted. But, the moments itself can take you to a fantastic high and bring you crashing.

Each time, a breakup can leave you sour and make you rethink on entering a relationship again. For some people, its far easier to get over a guy named 'loser' and move on to a 'much better' guy (as named by us). Sadly for some, it can turn them relationship phobic. It means that they would envy their friends having a partner, but would hate having one. This is the side they would portray to their friends or potential dates. They would try to turn off everyone who wanted them to date.

I would hate labelling them 'relationship-phobic', would rather put it as 'once bitten, twice shy!' ;)